You’ve Fallen In Love. Now What?

Want to keep your relationship alive? Try this exercise. PHOTO BY FRANK MCKENNA ON UNSPLASH

Have you ever considered taking some of the intentionality you use in planning your career or business and applying them to your relationship with your significant other?

I surround myself with a lot of intentional couples; collectively, we’ve created a list of questions which we review with our partners on our ‘monthiversaries’ (the date we met each month).

Speaking from personal experience, taking routine time out to be intentional as a couple has been an important way to deepen, strengthen, reflect, and plan together, although it’s not always easy or fun. One important thing to note: these questions are not the only time these types of dialogues occur, nor are they an excuse to bottle things up and drop a bomb on your partner.

If your relationship is fresh, this is the perfect time to start, and to set this growth-oriented practice into motion. If your relationship is more mature, you might feel as if you don’t want to rock the boat, or uproot old wounds or unearthed issues. I’m of the belief that it’s never too soon or too late to take on this type of practice.

Here are the questions my love and I use together, then store in an Evernote or a notebook so we can go back and reflect on the growth, or lack thereof. We try to keep the questions diverse and not over-abundant, so that it doesn’t feel tedious, but…